USING THE DECK AS AN ORACLE
Many people like to use similar card deck for answers so the difference is with this deck you’re going to get intuitive questions given to you to ask about a situation and instead of the card deck giving you an answer, you will create the answer for yourself. I have found this really works well in traditional past, present, future spreads to help me fully learn lessons, see what is in front of me now and how to prepare for future growth using the questions that come up for those placements. Experiment with other tarot or oracle deck spreads and use the questions to help you see the opportunity or obstacle in an objective way.
The questions can help you take yourself out of the situation and into the role of an observer.
ON THE GO
Since printing the first test deck, I have kept it with me wherever I go. It helps when I have to make decisions, but it has also been helpful for friends and family.
I have let them pull a card from the deck instead of me asking the questions.
It allows them to look at their situation objectively and to not assume my questions come from a place of judgment.
For questions like “Who are you becoming?” it feels like it is just asking you to look into the future you – and it is. But you can also examine it from the now. Everything we do is a choice.
What are you doing right now to move you to your goals? What do you notice about yourself as you make decisions? What do you currently enjoy about the way you make decisions? What would make it even better?
When you look to the future to see who you are becoming, it doesn’t discount all that you are now. We are constantly learning, growing and changing, but they can be really subtle movements too. Being able to recognize any shifts we do within ourselves, gives us an opportunity to not only celebrate who we are but appreciate how complex and inspiring we are every day of our lives.
The question “Why are your goals important to you?” also has two meanings. One is to look at your current goals you are working towards & actually recognize why they are your goals, why they are important and how do they impact your life.
The other aspect is to connect to why you even make goals. Sometimes we do it just because others are. Think of New Year’s resolutions or during religious observations, like Lent. But when we connect why we make goals to our own needs and wants or to our desire for change, they become more tangible. Those reasons will be different for everyone.
For me, I value finishing tasks. I make goals to feel successful in that I reached it and finished the task. I think about what I like about myself when I finish the task. What do I notice about myself when I finish the task? How does me finishing a task impact others around me? Is it a positive or negative impact? Sometimes we think we know why we have created a goal for ourselves, but when we sit and reflect on where the idea of the goal came from, we discover we borrowed it from someone else and it is not what we wanted at all.
The question “What would make this even better?” is given this way for a reason. Too often we are our harshest critics when it comes to mistakes and what we label failures. This question allows us to look at what worked and didn’t work but to frame each in a way that we can always do things with a little more ease or make it easy. Even what worked might need a bit of an improvement. It’s ok to look at things that happened as they were and look forward to the next step where we do things differently.
WORKING WITH THE CARDS
The best thing I have done for myself is keeping these cards wherever I can access them. I often get into anxiety situations and I find that when I do, pulling a question gives me the time, space and clarity to focus on the solution instead of the problem giving me anxiety. It has also helped me build stronger relationships with people sharing our unique answers to the questions when faced with the same obstacles. Being aware that I can learn from how someone else approaches and answers the questions, has allowed me to get outside my own head when problem solving. We each come to the question and create the answer based on our learned experiences and personal biases. Being curious about how other people react or respond to the question is an amazing gift.
Sometimes we are surprised by own our answers. As I have mentioned, sometimes the right answer isn’t the first one that comes to our mind. Take time with the questions. Don’t rush the answers and let your mind notice things about the question that will help you to make even better decisions. Thank you for purchasing The Little Box of Big Questions. I would love to hear how they work for you or how you use them.